It’s 19:55 on a Saturday evening. You’re all dressed up, excited by the window waiting in anticipation. Every car that passes by makes you turn your head. It’s been such a long time since you went on a date, you can’t remember when was the last time you wore that one-piece red couture that you save up for special occasions.
Make Up? Check.
You’re all ready and set to go. For what feels like an eternity, you hear a car pulling up. As he opens his car door and step out, your heart pounds rapidly. His complexion matched with his well built frame gives you a shiver down your spine. “He looks exactly like a model!” Every step he takes towards your door, your heart feels like it will rip out of it’s place
After what felt like an eternity, the doorbell rings loudly. “This is it! The best night of my life is going to be tonight! I can do it!”
Do You Remember The Last Time You Were Excited For Date Nights?
The excitement of going for a date is what most ladies have gone through at some point of their lives. From the long hours in the shower imagining the countless possibilities of what might happen for the night to rummaging the closet to find that perfect dress but everything just doesn’t seem to fit because you want it to be perfect!
Have you ever take a step back and asked yourself – Why do we get so excited over dates? Is it the anticipation that builds up leading to the big night? Or is it influenced directly from the peer pressure we get when the people around us share their exciting dates?
Regardless of the reason, admittedly we all look forward to someone asking us out for a date. The bigger questions that lies within – does the night ends according to our expectations?
Fast Forward – Three Hours Later:
You slam the door shut behind you. Your heart is pounding – not from excitement but in anger. Everything around you suddenly seems grey as if the sun will never shine again.
As you throw yourself on the couch, you start to ask yourself questions. “What went wrong? Was it me? How did I screw it up so badly?” Slowly despair and frustration starts to creep into you. You start to feel the disappointment all over again.
Dinner was awesome, the food was great, the ambience was romantic with candlelights and Kenny G playing in the background. He even surprised you with a bouquet of red roses – your favourite. At one point during dessert, you both held hands and stared into each others eyes, a thousand unspoken words flowed seamlessly. That moment felt like an eternity.
“What could go wrong?”
The ride home was unforgettable. He turned down the air conditioning when you rubbed your shoulders from the chill. He held your hand while he drove, talking gently. His smile was mesmerising, his eyes seemed to stare right through your soul when he looked at you. Everything was perfect and for a moment – the thought of walking down the aisle with him flashed through. You have found the perfect guy.
Finally he parked in front of your house and you knew you wanted him to be the one who wakes up beside you every morning. He leaned forward and instinctively you closed your eyes waiting for a wonderful kiss, he suddenly whispered in your ears – “Thank you for a great night, but I have to leave. You’re not really my cup of tea. I just don’t get that feeling when I’m with you. Sorry”
At that moment, your world came crashing down. The night has ended for you. Cold, hard reality started to sink in – he wasn’t interested in you!
So…What went Wrong? Was It Really Your Fault?
The answer is – NO!
It isn’t your fault if he doesn’t see you and appreciate you for who you really are.
It isn’t your fault if dates didn’t work out right according to your expectations.
It isn’t your fault if you keep ending up with the wrong guy. You know you deserve much better than that!
Most of us will blame ourselves when thing’s don’t work out the way it’s “supposed” to be, however not many of us will realise when in fact we have done what we can and the rest is up to FATE, or is it?
Does FATE really determine how our love life will be? Or can we make THE CHANGE?