Self Love Above All
In our previous articles, we have focused on falling in love with others and how to get the best out of it. Falling in love is one of the best blissful feelings that any human can have. It brings out the best (or worse) in us and the expression of our love may be unrequited most of the times, still we choose to believe in falling in love all over again.
Falling in love and getting into a relationship (both short and long term) successfully is the ultimate goal that we seek. Along the way, being disappointed and rejected makes us wonder if it’s worth the effort and time to keep going. We may end up thinking that the lonely life is what we are destined for if love is so hard to find. Yet, how many of us take a step back and relook into step 1 – loving ourselves?
How can we possibly love someone else when we fail to start by loving ourselves?
Indulge in some serious care and effort to know ourselves. Identify our strength and weaknesses in order to accept. With acceptance comes appreciation. Self-love influences everything from re-looking at your circle of friends, with whom you choose to date and how you are perceived at work by the way you carry yourself above the crowd. It’s beneficial for your mental and emotional strength and makes you a better person.
7 simple and creative ways to start loving ourselves:
Start taking self road trips
Solo travel has been trending in the recent years for a good reason. One of the biggest benefits of solo travel is the ability to take the trip at your own pace. It can be a day, a week or even a month for an amazing adventure!
By travelling alone, you never know what you might discover. A solo trip may be just what you need to get out of your comfort zone. It also gives you the space to explore the world and yourself.
Candlelight dinner for one
Pull out the nice dress or shirt kept hidden in the closet. Put on your favourite deodorant. Dress for the occasion. Time to go all out – for yourself. Whether it’s at home or outside, revel in your favourite food and savour each bite.
There’s no need to rush. Reconnect with yourself. Stay in the moment.
If being alone terrifies you or you can’t stop telling everyone how scary it is to not talk, a silent retreat is just what you need. Most retreats guide you through meditation to sort out the chaos in your life. This retreat is all about decluttering your mind.
From going camping alone without bringing your cellphone (make sure the place you are going is safe or at least help is readily available) to turning off any devices that allows others to communicate with you for one day, there are many ways to spend some serious time looking inward.
Another popular method for silent retreat is meditation. The best way to get to know yourself is to get inside your mind. Contrary to popular belief, meditation is not about silencing thoughts but rather learning to sift through them and rise above the noise.
Meditation helps you to manage stress, gain new perspectives in life and even improve your mood.
Studies shown that Facebook and Instagram scrolling is actually depressing you. When you spend time on social media catching up with your friends and family or even news on your favourite celebrity, it’s all too common to compare ourselves to the filter-perfect pictures we see. We spend more than 8 hours a day staring at a screen and it’s not making us any happier.
It’s time to step away and spend time in REAL LIFE. Turn off your phone. Hide the TV remote. Unplug the laptops and desktops. Grab a nice warm mug of chocolate. Go outside. Breathe in the fresh air of sundown. Sit and take in the breathtaking view.
You’ll be amazed how refreshed and relaxed you are at the end of the day and the good night’s sleep that you get after that.
It will freak you out in the beginning. Try to be brave and do something that’s physically or emotionally challenging outside of your comfort zone. Sing in front of a crowd at your favourite joint. Take up yoga or pole dancing. Go sky-diving.
It doesn’t matter what you choose to do, the idea is that you are pushing yourself away from your comfort zone. Not only you will have learnt or done something new, you will also realise that you are capable of so much more that what you thought you could!
Live your favourite day
What does the perfect day look like for you? From waking up to the last thing you do before bed, pamper yourself with a full day of your favourite things.
Eat the food you love (remember to exercise the next day). Catch up on your favourite movies. Drive to your favourite spot. Make time to meet the person you have been thinking of.
Today is your day!
Make time for pleasure
You don’t need a partner to benefit from pleasure. Masturbation helps to build self-esteem, make it easier to fall asleep and boosts your sex life.
Getting to know every inch of your body and what is your personal preference makes your sexual sessions with your partner so much more enjoyable and satisfying
Just like every other kind of love, self-love needs to be nurtured. You take care of others all the time and forsake your own needs. You should not feel guilty to spend time and pamper yourself every now and then. If none of the above interests you, at least get a massage or soak in a relaxing tub. Buy yourself your favourite ice-cream.
Remember – YOU DESERVE IT!